Marriage!

 

 

Marriage... it has its ups and downs and at the end of the day the person you share your life with is the most amazing person you can't live a day without. My husband, Mat, and I have been married for a little over 2 years and with his profession he travels more often then he was home. The June before we got married Mat took a job in Kansas that I was fortunate enough to go on with him. July came and I need to come back to Texas to finish up some of the wedding planning. Come August Mat took a job in Oregon which made him leave straight from Kansas without a stop at home. December finally came and he was still in Oregon and was able to come home for 5 days... just long enough to get married and fly back to Oregon on the Sunday after the wedding. My honeymoon was cancelled due to his jerk of a boss at the time but that's a story for another day. Anyway, he stayed in Oregon until the following July. I could go on and on about all the jobs he has been on between now and then but my point is Mat has only spent a total of 6 months of our 2 year marriage at home and it wasn't all at one time. Any couple, especially military wives, will tell you its not easy being away from our loved ones. It was always so exciting to have him come home and the most depressing thing to help him pack to go back to work. My heart would be broken for days after he left and pulling myself together to go to work was a challenge. Once I would pull it together and I started to look forward to the next time he would be coming home or me getting to go and see him. After a while we realized this was becoming a strain on our marriage and not to mention its hard to start a family when distance was a factor. In June of 2012 we sat down and discussed what would be best for our family. I ended up have weight loss surgery which put our plans of traveling together on hold. Of course with this being said it caused more stress on our marriage and depression set in for me. August 2012 I moved back to Houston, got a job I could not stand and faced a dilemma which helped Mat and I decide that after Christmas I would start my new occupation of Traveling Pipeliners Wife. BEST decision we ever made. I have been here in Tulsa with Mat now for a month and I haven't been happier. I wake every morning and go to bed every night to the most amazing man. I make him breakfast, when he wants it, lunch for work and dinner every night. Between 7:00am and 4:00pm I find things to keep myself busy like shopping, pipeline wife luncheons, cleaning, laundry, mani/pedi's, etc... Once 4:00pm hits I find myself unable to sit still since I know in an hour and thirty minutes Mat will be walking through the door. I look forward to hearing about his day, having a nice dinner with him, and enjoying family time with him and the girls. I find myself falling in love all over again with him and his new stories. People have always said the first year of marriage is always the toughest. Ha... the 2 years of marriage we have been in were by far the toughest if you ask us. Good thing about getting the toughest years over with is we now have the rest of our lives to make the most wonderful years. I love Mat as much as the day I met him and even more now. I'm just thankful God has given us the opportunity and the means to be together everyday. I'm blessed to have a man who loves me as much as I love him and willing to work as hard as he does so I can be here with him.