Starting Family!

Is it a boy or a girl? When are you due? How exciting! These are the questions I look forward to being asked now that Mat and I have finally decided to start trying… again… to have a baby. Starting a family is an easy decision but doesn’t always happen as fast as you would hope or would like for it to! Now that we have made this decision I have been observing other mothers and how they interact with their children and other peoples children. You never really know what kind of parent you will become but I have been taking notes on the kind of parent I want and I don’t want to be. Now I understand at some point you might become both but in the eyes of the everyday people who see me interact with my children I would want them to say good things about my parenting skills. This is when first impressions really matter! In my observations I took notice to a mother who won’t allow her child to be around or even speak to certain adults because this mother has issues with those adults. How crazy is that! Another mother wouldn’t allow her child to play hide and seek with the children because it’s not a nice game to hide from people. Really, I thought that was the point of the game! How about the mom who allows her child to come help another adult bake treats for other families and friends. Or the mom who allows their child to feel like an adult and make a deposit on the parents behalf. My favorite mom is the one who allows her child to play with everyone but has to check in and come home from dinner. Some of these mothers I have known for awhile and some I have just met and the interactions they have made with their children in front of me will forever give me an impression of them. Passing judgment on these mothers is not my place but it has helped me really the mom I will be and will not be! In all reality I want to be just like my Mother! In my mind, I can be judgmental, she did a pretty awesome job raising one independent, loving, caring, compassionate child. She gave me my space when needed, crowded me when needed, spanked me when needed, held me, taught me right and wrong, taught me to love, and should me how to be loved. This is the Mother I want and will become when my time arrives… hopefully sooner than later! Fingers Crossed!